And so I have decided to write something a little further away from the realm of Science. This may end up more of a forum for my ideas and thoughts than anything vaguely useful - yet another one!
It is the first of November. Change is on its way again as I plan to move home. That unquiet, unsettling feeling has rested itself in my upper abdomen and no amount of healthy food or stress-free activites seems to alleviate. I wonder what else plagues my mind.
Relationships are tricky things, especially long standing ones. The longer someone has known you, the less likely they accept changes that happen in you. Parents, for example, are notoriously difficult to convince that the changes that continue to appear in your life are normal, and fine. And even if those changes are not fine, they are normal. What happens when your sense of humour no longer matches theirs? when your interests don't appeal to their sense of what's important; when conversation stagnates easily?
A rift forms, and is widened by misunderstandings. Offence is taken easily on both sides. Past behavour forms the model of expectation for the present and future - and this model doesn;t always fit correctly when changes have occured. But families love no matter what, and bridges are built and rifts diminish.
But what about the relationships with people you have chosen? Friends, lovers? Is change what causes so many marraiges to break down?
It's almost a rhetorical question.
Nevertheless, I love change, however it knots up my stomach and makes me moody. So I think the key is to learn to accept it and go with it. If you can find someone who adapts to change with you, then you have probably found something worth keeping.
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